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Spare them from the evils of our day.

The times we live in are evil,moral decadence is on persistent increase. Infact it has become a norm. What a child grows up to become depends on the training and guidance she has received and the depth of the values inculcated in her. Has she or has he been brought to Christ. These days it is not new to hear of children doing very funny things like getting pregnant ,raped or killed. It is times like this that we need to get back to our source and teach these children the basics. Dear Parent look at the children God has given you,are they doing well academically? Thank God,what of their spiritual lives? The best time to start is when they are young and impressionable, fill their mind with God's word. It is absolutely necessary to check their school work as well as their spiritual lives. Pray for wisdom to wisdom to answer their inquisitive questions before they search for these answers in the media. Never be overprotective of your children to the extent of restricting them from no

Kick out Rejection.

Its one of those days,when the glass is half empty. It seems everyone is getting married.getting new jobs ,having new things and events in their lives except you. Its beginning to sound like a conspiracy,nothing is in your favour and you are feeling frustrated and rejected. My sister,here is help for you. You do not have to go out looking for attention when you have God. There is no one that has not had one thing to think of.We have all had a share of ups and downs. Though we all crave human attention and a shoulder to cry on,we can not depend on other people. It is only God the can complement you the way no one can.You have God's 100% undivided attention. Rejection can be deadly,it robs you of your joy and can lead you to suicide. To disarm Rejection focus on positive things,build a steady relationship with God and of course focus on giving.

Red turns heads.

 Ruby,crimson,scarlet,tomato fire,blood,wine,chilli or berry-they are all red. It is the colour of sex,the colour of passion.Drape yourself in luxurious satins,shimmer in sparkly sequins,whisper in delicate silks,float away in fine chiffon. However you wear it,red is the colour that will get you noticed. Here's how to wear it with confidence. 1.You should not wear top to toe red. 2.Look for a shade that best complements your skin tone. 3.If you are not brave to wear solid red,go for patterns and florals or just wear it on your nails. 4.Mix your look with earth tones,indian spice colours,chunky bronze or wooden jewellery. 5.If you are not quite Chris de Burgh's Lady in Red yet,slowly introduce this confident colour to your wardrope by wearing a red belt,shoes or handbag. 6.A pair of slinky fire engine stilettos paired with a neutral outfit will do the trick. Whether you are celebrating or not,wearing red can make you feel alive and ambitious. 

Will the real Nigerian show please stand up.

There are lots of reality shows on the television-one cannot help but wonder at how these celebrities live without the cameras following them.For some time now,Nigerians have gone the same route,but is this what we also want to watch on television?. First was Omo sexy,personally,I commend her efforts but the show is one sided. She is not really exposing her life on camera.No family,no drama ,nothing. Now,Jim Iyke has his own coming up-Jim said so. I remember a time that  I really loved  watching  any  Jim Iyke movie. Now with this new reality show,I really wonder what he has to offer.  Now we know we can finally do a reality show,will the real Nigerian show please stand up,with real issues. Should  we continue with Omo sexy and her idea of a reality show.

Ekiti State Deputy Govenor passes on

 Ekiti state governor passes on of a protacted cancer at the age of 52. She died in a hospital whoe receiving treatment. Mrs Olayinka was an accomplished banker for 21 years. She is survived by her husband and three children.

What type of food do we eat to lose weight?

 With a lot of people trying to lose weight in Nigeria,the question I want to ask is what is the best food to eat to lose weight.  We are blessed with a lot of starchy foods-rice,yam,cocoyam,irish potatoes,:let's face it ,we even eat it everyday,in parties,with friends,we even add it to soups. Its not like the soups are fat free. Infact some families I know of always eat soup with garri(prepared from cassava) at least once everyday. With this culture,we need to know what best to eat. The only party I attended that the caterers prepared beans ,was talked about for months for being weird. Loosing weight seems like an expensive venture, with the way and manner we eat. Though it seems easy but it is hard. Most times when watching foreign channels, I really wonder if anything goes into their stomach, the size is just so small and the amount of almost fresh vegetables in it is so much or maybe I am imagining it. So what is the best food to eat and how do we eat them? I need answers,fe

What if my boss is a woman.

Anytime women lead management positions,people wonder if she truly can handle the job. The answer is as simple as yes or no depending on the setting and the if the management is mostly male or female . I have worked for both male and female bosses, both see work, priorities and life differently.Some male bosses act like a female boss would. Most people believe that working with women are hard, but the reality is that women in leadership roles have businesses with the same breakdown as their male counterparts. Working in a women-led office can mean you as an employee have more say in decision-making processes. The fact is women seem to feel threatened by other women in the workplace and can sabotage each other. Women are typically more mentors in female-dominated professions;while men are more commanding in male-dominated profession. Women are slightly more likely to serve as role models, helping employees develop their skills, and motivating them to be dedicated and creative. Wome

Help:I need to lose this weight.

Before marriage, a woman can do as she pleases. She can eat anything, go to the gym or not ,but. She still maintains her size. Immediately,she has has first child, her priorities change ,she still looks good but by the time she has the second, third or fourth child,keeping fit is so hard. After my first child,I was still the same but after having my second daughter, I got so fat ,losing it was hard. With time,I did lose all the weight but just towards the end of last year,I began to add the weight again and well,its not worth it,believe me. Right now,I am,officially a size sixteen and I am fast desperate to lose this weight forever. Now,I originally love sweet things and when feeding my kids, I tend to also eat 'a little' with them and whenever I cook,I also feel obligated to eat also. All this are not helping me,why do my kids not also have weight? Maybe I should start running and playing with them. Why are my husband ,my sisters not also having weight? The worse is t

Meal times Great times.

There are ways to dwell in unity ,love ,understanding with members of your family. The simplest is sharing a meal. This helps in cementing family relationships. Its always difficult to gather members of my family to eat together especially with the hustle and bustle at these present times. Most times,everyone wants to eat in their rooms or in front of the television. At times,due to the fact,that I feels skipping meals will help in weight reduction, I skips the meal.  Meal times afford you time to bond with members of your family and gives everyone a sense of security and belonging. They are great times to relax and enjoy the pleasures of eating together. People eat more balanced meals and a variety of food if they eat with family and friends. As a result of this,eating disorders are kept at bay. Children also open up at meal times. They will also learn social and interactive skills. Talking to children at meal times are great ways to build their trust. It binds families

Do you snore?

Snoring is defined as a coarse sound made by vibrations of the soft palate and other tissue in the mouth, nose & throat . It is caused by turbulence inside the airway during inspiration. The turbulence is caused by a partial blockage that may be located anywhere from the tip of the nose to the vocal chords. This is because our muscle tone is reduced during sleep and there may be insufficient muscle tone to prevent the airway tissue vibrating .Many people snore and it does not matter if the person is fat or slim. Every member of my family snores, though not much except my late father snored so much that we knew when he pretended to sleep. I ended up marrying a man who sometimes snored, it was not always a very quiet night.  It is often said that snoring is often the result of overindulgence in some of life's pleasures but this is not quite true.  The following are the causes of snoring  1.Overeating and/or Lack of Exercise 2.Alcohol and Sleeping Pills 3.Smokin

Buy me gifts not fill my stomach.

When I was in school.anytime a guy wanted to impress a girl,he usually first took her to fast food:before he would think of giving her gifts,this was because my college was not among those found in cities. Infact,for a guy to give quality gifts, the girl was indeed special. These days things are a lot different; with most ladies looking to stay and remain slim,no one wants to go and eat first,the only time,you see such is in Nigerian films.Most want the expensive gifts first,then the food can come in later. So my question people is this? 1. Is it wrong for a guy to take a lady out to eat? 2. What if the guy doesn't have enough money for the gifts,do you dump him?

Working is essential.

Eduvie looked outside the window of her 2 bedroom flat and wondered how she would get money to complete the cooking before her husband arrived. She had just picked her 1st son from school and he was doing his homework,her 2nd child a girl was playing by herself, happy that her brother was finally home.Just then she heard a car come into the house,she checked and it was her neighbour-Pamela who was back from work as a teacher with her kids to take care of other chores that she had . She had always envied Pamela and her kids anytime she saw the whole family going out in the morning. The flat felt like a big hole as she decided to cook the food anyhow,she and her kids would eat it but her husband wouldn't,he never seemed to care about eating at home anyway. She thought of how her life had been before she met her husband. She wondered how she would move on,and the fact that she didn't even complete her secondary school,brought tears to her eyes. Right there she made up her mind

Elections are back.

The FCT elections are here again and after this we should be expecting other political issues up until 2014. This will mean that roads will be blocked,no movement and this elections are stepping stones for them to try bigger things. Well,let me say this,I'm happy for those contesting ans wish them luck especially the strong men and women who also are in the election who are not indigenes of FCT. I'm not one to talk about the election,in fact,I don't ever vote before and really don't care who wins or who loses .The only thing I care about is the fact that the man or woman does what is right for the communities they lead and are christians but because I care about what they do,I just have to vote. Let's hope that this time the right people win.

Do you supervise what your children watch on TV.

What do our kids do in their spare time? Do they enjoy video games ,playing with phones,tablets or T.V. like so many kids do? There are so many channels nowadays to choose from. One thing I've learned as a mother is that all children are different,and they react to things differently.My 1st daughter who is age 4 watches tv a lot ,she watches a lot of cartoons and by the 2nd time she watches them she has learned the songs sang in the movie while my 2nd daughter doesn't. Ever since she was born, she has always liked anything on screen.In her earliest days, I’d lay her on the couch in the morning and watch TV while she drifted off to sleep. When she got older, I’d give her my phone to calm her down in the car or at the supermarket. I discovered that TV was an ideal way to distract her while feeding her dinner. As she grew older,it worsened,if by chance,I let her watch cartoons before going to church on sundays or even before school,it'll sure be a bad day.We knew this was w

FIRST AID:What to do when a child has a burn.

A skin burn occurs when the skin comes in contact with anything hot . We can save the lives of children and pre-teens around us if we know the right thing to do immediately a burn occurs. While we make arrangement to take them to the hospital some first aid treatment can help keep them alive. Here is fast first aid tip and prevention tips for burns at any age  from www.childrensDMC.org. DO 1. Remove clothing from the burned area of the skin. 2. Cool the burn with cool(not cold) tap water to stop further burning. 3.Apply a clean dry bandage to prevent infection. 4.Seek medical care for burns that blister or causes the skin to change its colour. DON'T 1. Use butter,toothpaste,ice ,ointment or olive oil on a burn. 2.Break the blisters. PREVENTION 1.Lower the hot water temperature in your home's hot water heater. 2.Keep pots handles towards the back of the stove. 3.Teach children the word "hot". 4.Keep iron,candles,matches,lighters, away from

Time and wounds.

Several years ago,my friend's  dad passed on.Her  mum,her  sisters   were beside themselves  wondering how all of a sudden,they  were without a father,even though they  had reached a point in their  lives,they  asked the question most people ask;why?.Friends who came around consoled them with so many words,especially her mum-with these words-time heals all wounds. We all hear these words-especially when people are hurt.But does it really heal with time. Time waits for no one.We all have the same time to do things ,its up to us to maximize it.Time does not heal,It only makes you realize the hole it has placed ,the mistakes you made,the opportunities you wasted.With issues like death ,failures and other issues-its impossible. The only thing to do is to make the rest time left,count.There is no use beating oneself up or worse still blaming ithers for mistakes.Building better friendships,building oneself-in every way-physically,intellectually,emotionally,socially-lifts one up,to

7 things to know.

1st Don’t let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life. Relationships work best when they are balanced. 2nd Never explain yourself to anyone. Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it. 3rd When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free. When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come. 4th When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams. Choice is yours 5th We make them cry who care for us. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us. This is the truth of life, it’s strange but true. Once you realize this, it’s never too late to change. 6th Don’t make promise when you are in joy. Don’t reply when you are sad. Don’t take decision

Making the most of your valentine.

Valentine’s Day began as a celebration of one or more early Christian saints named Valentinus. The most popular martyr ,he was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians, who were persecuted under the Roman Empire; during his imprisonment, he is said to have healed the daughter of his jailer Asterius, before his execution he wrote “from your Valentine” as a farewell to her. Today is a day to celebrate Love. If you don’t have a Valentine like me, fret not. A lot of my friends call today “Single’s Awareness Day” instead of Valentine’s Day. Today is a day to celebrate Love. Love of yourself, love for life, for struggles, for everyone in your life, for who is IN your life as well as love for who is OUT of your life. If you’re single and without a valentine, today is a great day to celebrate your freedom and embrace even more courage to be more open, more loving and more curious about love. Let today be a celebration that

Night season

Everyone will agree that they all have issues,but not everyone will agree that all issues are spiritual no matter how small the case is. Most people only cry to God when they feel that the heat is hot. Check this,most idol worshippers carry their sacrifices in the dead of the night so also cult people: if they,as limited in their thinking can know that that time is precious;so also should people especially christians .You need to take charge of any issue at night. There is no ‘traffic’ during the night season.Just as our faces are different,so also what people do in response to issues are. At this point in our lives,it is essential to do this

Children....don't we all love them.

Children especially the little ones are always a delight,to everyone. Right from the day I realized I was pregnant,I didn’t think that I knew what I was in for; In fact the minute I gave birth and held my daughter in my arms for the first time,I knew that I was hooked. As she grew up,I thought of things,a lot differently. There was nothing that I did that didn’t include her. This is always the story of every woman who has had a kid. They are innocent,they can make you laugh,smile,cry etc. They can do all sorts,plus they learn very fast,too fast sometimes for comfort. The most annoying yet beautiful thing is the fact that they can scatter the whole house. Don’t we love them still.